My goodness

So I'm in need of some advice. I come from a military family, I personally am a member of the Virginia National Guard, I'm a very open individual as is the majority of my family. However my father who is a member of the US Marine Corps is not. He is a homophobe however. My friends are all aware of my sexual orientation and none of them care. My father and a select few of my other relatives are still being left out of the loop. My biggest fear is telling my father, because I've experienced his views on lesbian and the like and I guess I would just like some insight and suggestions on how to tell the man that's told me many times that I would no longer be his daughter.

sorry about the ramblings but I had no idea how to word any of this :/

Hey girl.....I really think that telling ur father would not be such a good idea. It might really hurt your military career...im not saying he would tell anyone but u just never know with what jarheads will do when they are confronted with their own daughter being labeled a lesbian and what he would think or feel if his friends knew or found out about u. As it is right now girl....they are still throwing ppl out of the military for being gay or lesbian ....we still have to be in hiding to serve just be careful babe....Ok?

Hello,
I agree based on how important your military career is, probably best to hang low and keep your personal choices to yourself. However the most important thing happiness and being true to yourself. On a good note we can hope that some good comes from the Don’t ask Don’t tell bill allowing others in similar situations to finally be able to free about personal choices while in the military. In the end someday you will have to tell your father, no matter what happens you will be at peace and feel better about yourself. So even though I mentioned earlier about not telling him, on the other had maybe it will be the best thing to help you. I would just simply explain to him in private your true feelings. He may hate you at first, but in time he will learn how to accept it. If your family loves you then they will accept your personal choices in life regardless. Anyway I hope this makes sense.

Good Luck

Dawn