Forum : Down and Dirty : Let's talk about sex! 18+ only please! http://www.shewired.com/forum/ Hello Sweetie, Oh my, nothing wrong with a little self love LOL. After all it can help relive a little stress in life. Just like the other advice you already received there is so many great options on how to meet other girls. So instead of sting at home and doing well you know, perhaps get out and enjoy the beach or some night life. You never know what might happen. Dawn http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=FE399C5E-19BB-3778-62C22C82F0C1E082&r=1 2009-11-16T18:20:38-08:00 Dateless [quote="vmorel"][u]I just can't seem how to make myself come...i've tried rubbing, thrusting, but just can't get there...any suggestions from anyone? thanks :D[/u][/quote] I'm no SEXpert but I'm an adult so why not... It might help to buy a vibrator if you?re into lying on your back, or mount your hand and explore. Pillows are great for rubbing a nipple while face down and if you like rear play the tilt helps. The extra stimulation can take the mind off the fact that you are doing yourself. Last but not least if it?s a mental block that is holding the climax back, think of someone really hot or specific body parts of another person that turn you on. Such as the mouth, tongue, breast, eyes, a sexy back etc. Since it's more about you, just go for what normally gets you hot in terms of positioning, direction etc but explore because you might just surprise yourself. :twisted: Good luck! http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=CC7F918C-19BB-3778-623E9C3D29B652CF&r=2 2009-11-07T02:36:02-08:00 Masturbation? I just can't seem how to make myself come...i've tried rubbing, thrusting, but just can't get there...any suggestions from anyone? thanks :D http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=CBE8C346-19BB-3778-6279C31E7E606F53&r=3 2009-11-06T23:51:19-08:00 Masturbation? I find it interesting that so many womyn have responded to this forum. Obviously we are all hot. But for those of us who do, masterbate that is, do we do it out of need or out of sheer necessity? I mean like what if your partner just doesn't quite get you there, or you know your zones like no other and prefer not to share them? This is the first time in a while that I have seen so many womyn share the fact that they masterbate, and enjoy it to the degree of expressing warmth, yummy, delightful cumming ways. Do you find it interesting that our cum is so thick and wonderfully creamy when you reach that peak of masterbating that you simply cannot scream because it felt so good? Yet, when it's all done, don't all of us want a partner that can turn us on like that all day long! I personally would never get tired of tweaking with my lover in the areas that could get us both off, then jetting back to work while still very wet....:arrow: take me to the next level and thrill me with your spill! 8) http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=C2A51BAD-19BB-3778-620D392057C7FE0B&r=4 2009-11-05T04:40:50-08:00 Masturbation? Uh yeah, I've been single for about a year and a half and I find myself doing it at least once a day and even when i was not single I did it. I use visuals sometimes but mostly my imagination. Oh and I am in the market for a new showerhead and my old one is not available anymore any suggestions?:lol: http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=C0F713C0-19BB-3778-6228ED025E840451&r=5 2009-11-04T20:51:08-08:00 Masturbation? Masturbation- Yes. YES. yEs. YeS! I'm def up for it more in the morning... but like someone fore-mentioned if something hott happens during the day, I'm up for it whenever. I don't usually need visual stimulation BUT, let me just say that when there IS visual stimulation it makes it very, very hard to behave. ;) I am a very sexual person, so I guess masturbation comes naturally for me. Infact, when I'm w/ a girl I love watching her touch herself... I usually can't play the bistander for long since it gets me so hot that I can't wait to participate. Masturbation= HOT. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=BF7DBE91-19BB-3778-62CF1A1CE5D4343B&r=6 2009-11-04T13:58:59-08:00 Masturbation? Hiiiiiii, I do it allmost everyday and all I need is my imagination or a hot chat with older girls. Kisses Rita http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=BE2AB1B4-19BB-3778-62913D31C1477907&r=7 2009-11-04T07:48:39-08:00 Masturbation? All of the above advice is awesome....but most important is definatly talking to your partner. You can even let her teach you what she likes....and what she doesnt. Keep the lines of communication open. You will KNOW if your doing something right...most definatly lol http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=7D6A856E-19BB-3778-626D9C211F21AC48&r=8 2009-10-22T18:03:03-08:00 a lil nervous Oh girl it can not be that bad u have to network hon....theres singlesnet and also tangowire....theyre both dating sites...i have met girls on both sites so it can be done u just have to filter out the players, the gamers, and then there are the girls who are serious about finding someone to get to know. But plz hon dont give up theyre are girls out there who are real serious about meeting other girls. Ok? Give it a chance before u pack it in.....i dont know if ur in a small town or a big town u didnt quite give us enuff info...hhaha but anyway need to maybe go visit some bars, take walks, hang out at the beach ......theyre are lots of places to go to meet girls....just have patience, faith, hope and a smile girl someone will be there waiting for u.....good luck. ciao. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=5617EC40-19BB-3778-6275CB55C67B3750&r=9 2009-10-15T02:47:38-08:00 Dateless Haven't had a date in two years. What else can I do but masturbate? You know? LOL Ugh. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=55CA691F-19BB-3778-6297AD5950A04BB5&r=10 2009-10-15T01:22:58-08:00 Dateless I was going to say possibly body shy but nine months is a long time to be with one person and not get over that although, I guess it could happen. A week is the longest it has taken for the girls I?ve dated that restrict privileges to their ?friend? to start sharing. I?ve dated a lot of ?body shy? women, more so than ?full pledged tops?. I don't think I've really ever met one of those really. In my mind, a top is only a top until I make her a bottom. There are exceptions to every rule and the "I'm a top always" is a rule. I'm a rule breaker, very rebellious. Maybe you just need more practice? not to knock there, but I think everyone has to learn what makes the sexual partner tick. Just because I like a certain thing does not mean my partner would, at least that is what I have discovered. Also, if the person is really body shy there has to be self esteem build up and finding the best method to do that can also be tricky. Worst case scenario the person is ashamed of the "gayness". I have dated the ?I would be straight if I could be? before and the trick becomes figuring out a way to work with the person not as accepting of their own sexuality, so that the person can finally start allow the receptive pleasures to take place. The goal is always un-complicating the complicated, it?s one hell of a mission! -Meghan http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=36D79696-19BB-3778-62256DB8E84222B8&r=11 2009-10-09T01:09:08-08:00 puzzled Glad to be of some help.:) http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=36A9FC8F-19BB-3778-620E82565BB25059&r=12 2009-10-09T00:19:20-08:00 puzzled jux4play--> wow... that was actually really insightful. I have a tendancy to not consider that others may think differently than myself- that is one of my major downfalls. So I guess I just thought that since I like being fucked but I also really enjoy the part where my head/finger tips go between her legs; that she should have felt the same way. Which is wrong. Whatever makes her happy is what does it for her- and no one is going to change that. Thx much for the input. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=3689984D-19BB-3778-62D9911ABDDC9EB6&r=13 2009-10-08T23:43:57-08:00 puzzled Cass, there's no reason to be puzzled about this, it was nothing you did or nothing she did, it seems like you just found yourself a "TOP". Sounds like you can take it laying down just as good as you can give it on top, but you may find that with some people, it's kinda hard to give up that control and allow yourself to be dominated, they love being in control. They get just as much pleasure from knowing that they're pleasing the person who they're with, than being physically touched in a sexual way by that person....ahhh, how can i describe this....o.k., you know the feeling that you get when you've just made the woman you're with scream with pleasure... for a "TOP" that is also the sound of pleasure for them, listening to you reach your peak makes them also explode with pleasure. That's why i think alot of women ask a potential lover when they meet "are you a top or bottom"...maybe, not after "Hi, what's your name ", but it does happen...i think they just want to know if they will be compatible as lovers if they do decide to hook up, because two "tops" will never work in the bedroom or even in the kitchen, all because of the little thing we call control. I hope what i said made some sense to you and not puzzled you even more. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=3516B7FA-19BB-3778-62A41BAD2A411C69&r=14 2009-10-08T16:58:51-08:00 puzzled Hello Cass, I am sorry to hear about your situation, but now that it is over maybe it is or the best. After all in a relationship it should be about equally giving and receiving. There is no reason to be puzzled, some girls are simply not ready for a full sexual relationship. But I am sure if you follow your heart you will find one who enjoys the pleasure of sex just like you do. Perhaps the only thing I would suggest is not trying so hard, the best fucking is the kind that comes natural between two lovers. Good Luck Dawn http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=3082D989-19BB-3778-6257A676EC05C577&r=15 2009-10-07T19:38:52-08:00 puzzled Okay so this is one for the masses- the more experienced, insightful masses- As I cannot claim to be anywhere near an expert lesbian... (ha!- if there even is such a thing) Anyways, the most current girl that I was with was very wishy-washy when it got down to business. We were together for about 9 months, the sex was great, her kiss sent me through the roof every time, as far as I could tell we were very turned on by each other. So when it got down to us actually having sex with each OTHER things got weird. She would pleasure me over and over and would NEVER let me return the favor (well very very very rarely...) I had rarely went down on her, never fucked her as long or multiply like she had me... Maybe it was just personal preferece- but after a while it got old. The big part of the reason I am a lesbian is because women get my juices flowing!-- I want to be fucked by women BUT I also really enjoy fucking a woman... pleasuring them, making them feel the rush of emotions when I have them at my finger-tips (literally..haha). So I basically didn't let this go unaddressed in our relationship- I started being more aggressive (I thought maybe that was it...? she wanted me to struggle for it..) but that was not it. So I asked her if there was something I could be doing differently when we were intimate...? Nothing. Then I just flat out said--- I LIKE FUCKING YOU & I'd like to do it as often as you fuck me!.... her response was that she just really really really liked doing me and that was enough for her. So basically- I'm asking anyone out there... should I have handled this differently? (it was NOT the reason we broke up) I was really really frustrated by this during our relationship- and needless to say I was actually really hurt by it also... Is there a bigger underlying reason for this??? I'm just puzzled. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=2ED4DF63-19BB-3778-62ACB63CBE9A4281&r=16 2009-10-07T11:49:13-08:00 puzzled the following will probably not be the best advice, but it was the first thing that came to mind: CHEAT http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=54B8837D-19BB-3778-6208535B4B11E7D4&r=17 2009-08-26T03:21:01-08:00 The thrill is gone??? I am in a relationship for 13 years. (I am 37 she is 31) Sex was great for the first 6 years and the last 7 years it has just been vitually non-existant except also like you when your partner in drunk. It is a confidence issue mostly. I love my partner.But at times i do want more as I love sex. Decide what you want and do it.I am seriously considering out of it as sex is part of the relationship.When I have mentioned about confidence and drinking my partner tells me to shut up.I want more sex, she doesn't except when drunk.It is hard being with someone that you love, but the sex is not there http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=48D63609-19BB-3778-62A3FDD0A7B445B0&r=18 2009-08-23T19:58:01-08:00 The thrill is gone??? With my experiance I think it made my ex girlfriend even more excited about being with me when I was new. Ill never forget the first time going down on her I had to pump myself up to do it but I liked it. I think it did help how strong my feelings were for this young lady. Just go with it is my advice. If you have chemistry things will go smoothly. Experiment and focus on body language it tells the story. Sometimes anticipation helps so talking about it before actually doing it makes it more so real when the dead is being done. Waiting tilll afterwards probably gives that "sure it your first time" awkwardness. Not like I would know but whatever's. http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=42625EDF-19BB-3778-62247D870BD19FF7&r=19 2009-08-22T13:53:46-08:00 a lil nervous My suggestion to friends/other woman that ask this kinda question.. Just do, touch, feel, lick.. the way you like to be touched, felt, licked.. ect. Once you get started.. doing the things you fantasize about..think about doing to a partner, it all comes pretty natural. Bet you'll be a champ at it! :) http://www.shewired.com/forum/messages.cfm?messageid=413110E3-19BB-3778-62CCC08EB46173DE&r=20 2009-08-22T08:20:17-08:00 a lil nervous